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Father’s Day: My Kids Have Two Dads (and so do yours)

Tomorrow is Father’s Day.

My kids are very excited. Mostly because they’ve come to assume any celebration will involve some type of cake or treats. But we can use this time to teach our kids an important truth: Our children have two daddies (and so do we).

This morning, our breakfast chat went something like this….

Me: Did you know you have TWO daddies?

Kids: Puzzled looks and big, interested eyes

Me: That’s right. You do.

  • You have your dad here on earth, but you also have a Father up in Heaven. Father God. And he loves you.
  • Father God is our good daddy in Heaven who loves us and takes care of us. He loves you even more than your daddy here on earth does.
  • So tomorrow we’ll celebrate your dad here on earth, but we can also celebrate that we have a good Father in Heaven.

If your kids have a loving earthly father that’s present in their lives, you can focus on the fact that “Every good and perfect gift comes from the Father above (James 1:17).” This includes the dad they have on earth. He’s a gift from God and we can thank God for him.

If your kids have a father that is no longer loving or present (either by choice or circumstance), use this as a chance to show them they are not alone and fatherless. They have a Father God in heaven who loves them.

It can be tempting to define Father God by the shortcomings of our earthly fathers, but the truth is our earthly fathers are just flawed versions of our perfect, heavenly Father.

I pray for blessings on your families as you celebrate Father’s day tomorrow. Regardless of circumstance, we can rejoice because every one of us has a perfect Heavenly Father to celebrate tomorrow.

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How Making Cookies Can Teach Your Kids About God’s Goodness

We all want our kids to be “good.” Even strangers want our kids to be good (I know this because of all their helpful tips). But what really makes something good? And how can we teach our kids about this? By making cookies, of course! Here’s an experiment I came up with based on an article I wrote for Focus on the Family.

  1. Get your ingredients: Cookie dough, sugar, salt. We used the packaged store cookies because some days I don’t have it in me to get my  Martha Stewart on.
  2. Put salt on top of some and sugar on the rest. (You can also mix it into the dough if you’re making cookies from scratch).  The kids love to help with this part.
  3. Bake the cookies. Put some of each kind on a plate (it shouldn’t be obvious which is which).
  4. Ask the kids if they look good.  Can they figure out which have salt vs. sugar just by looking at them?  How about by tasting them? Make sure they get a chance to taste both kinds.

Teaching Points

  • Not everything that looks good really is. Explain how the salty ones look good on the outside but don’t taste good because of what’s on the inside. God cares about our hearts more than appearances (1 Samuel 16:7).
  • Sometimes we act like salty cookies. We do things that look good on the outside, but maybe we don’t really mean it or we’re doing it for selfish or other reasons.
  • Since only God is truly good (Mark 10:17-18), He is the “ingredient” that creates true goodness in our hearts. We can ask him to give us His goodness so we can be more like Him. He wants to help us!

Other Ideas

  • Depending on how many cookies you make, you can carry this on for a while. They love the suspense of wondering which kind of cookie they will get when they “pick”.  Use it as a chance to continue the conversation since kids learn through repetition.
  • Ask them to think of situations where they may act more like a salty cookie — appearing good on the outside, but not pleasing God with their hearts.

Do you like to make cookies with your kids? What other ways can we teach our kids about God’s kind of goodness? I’d love to hear what you think!